So this week I was reminded of how far I’ve come and how far I have to go all at the same time. It’s really interesting to see how other people live and compare it to how you live your own life.
I remember when I was younger being literally a hot mess. My days would consist of waking up, smoking pot (not saying there’s anything wrong with this I just don’t do it regularly anymore), ordering delivery (the delivery person knew me so well that she would bring treats for my dog), then getting ready for work, working 8-12 hours, then staying after work for another 2 hours getting shitfaced, passing out, repeat. I looked like this:
Happy Wednesday! It’s my rest day and I’m currently prepping some food to take with me to work. I’ve been thinking lately and I’m so excited to be leaving the US and to meet new people, try new things and experience different cultures.
So one thing I learned from the book Push by Chalene Johnson was that most successful people make lists. She makes daily lists and I’m working on consistently making lists myself so I can stay focused and on track.
At the beginning of the year I made a list of goals for 2016. I look at it every Sunday to remind myself what I’m working towards. So far I’ve accomplished more than half of what I set out to do this year.
It’s like I forgot I started this blog! Lol! Soooo there’s a lot to update you on! Where do I start? So we’re moving to Cancun, Mexico!!! *wait what?!* Yes it’s true… Ok let me back up.
So obviously my husband cannot come back to the states since he was deported in 2014 and there’s a 10 year ban that comes along with that. Womp! So since then we’ve been trying to figure out how to get back to each other and live happily ever after. For a hot second I was like ‘I’ll just move to Africa’ and then I snapped out of it and we realized that’s not what we really wanted. Then we started looking at other locations and we decided we wanted someplace warm, with good culture, Spanish speaking (my husband speaks 10 languages fluently) and where we can find work. Continue reading
So I was just on Beyoncé’s website and girlfriend is living the fab life. On her own yacht, traveling the world with her family, eating good food, drinking great wine! LIVING IT UP! My first inclination is to say, ‘Must be nice.’ But is that really the right reaction? Instead of being envious of her amazing life why not try to live my own amazing life? Why can’t I have a yacht and travel the world?
Up until recently I always thought having crazy, lofty goals was a little ridiculous. I mean, am I ever gonna be wealthy enough to visit every country in the world? Will I ever be financially stable enough to wake up and not have anything to do but chill on the beach and drink rosé? Well those things won’t ever happen if I put in my head that they can’t! If Beyoncé started her career saying I just want to sell a couple of cds and that’ll be success to me she wouldn’t be the multimillionaire business woman she is today, trust and believe.
Successful people are never satisfied. And they never stop thinking about what’s next. You have to want to be better. You have to have the drive. Maybe wealth isn’t what motivates you. Maybe its the freedom to spend your time the way you want to and not be tied down to a 9-5 job. So what can you do to get yourself out of the rat race? You have to start thinking outside the box if you want to live life on your own terms.
I’m done having little dreams. Those no longer interest me. From now on when I tell someone a dream or goal I have I want to see that look on their face like, ‘That’ll never happen’ and then I’m gonna go out and prove them wrong. I can do anything and so can you. Stop making excuses, stop putting limitations on yourself and just go out there and do it!
Last year for my birthday my mom bought me the book “Act Like a Success, Think Like a Success” by Steve Harvey. At the time I my response was “Aww, thanks mom, that’s so sweet” and I threw the book into my bag where it stayed for almost a year. It’s not that I don’t like Steve Harvey. I love him! I just wasn’t ready to read it and every time the thought crossed my mind I made an excuse… I don’t have time, I’m busy, it’s probably boring, etc.
Last week I realized it was time to read the book. I’ve been existing in this life, not living it. My husband and I are apart because of reasons beyond our control. I’m tired of working hard to make someone else’s dream come true… I want my own dreams to come true! I want to wake up excited to work, I want to start a family, I want to own property, I want to travel the world, I want to take care of my parents! I figured reading the book couldn’t hurt. And if I had enough time to watch everything I had DVR-ed in the last week I had time to read this book.
Game changer. Those are the words that come to mind after reading this book. I’ve always felt like my life is meant to be more than what it is. I’m meant to see the world, to leave a mark, to be great. Reading this book has given me the push I need to stop living life on other people’s terms and to start living life on my own.
One of the things that Mr. Harvey suggests is creating a vision board. Something that you will see every day and remind you of what you’re working towards. I’ve been wanting to create a vision board for a long time but again procrastinated. That’s something I tend to do a lot. There’s always tomorrow, or I’ll do it later. Well I’m not going to get where I want to by putting things off. That’s another topic that Steve touches on in this book.
Today I went to the store and got my supplies to create my vision board. I have been collecting wine corks for over a year (former bartender here) and they’ve been sitting in a bag waiting to be put to use. This week I’m going to make my vision board and make sure I look at it every day. I have goals and dreams that are out of this world crazy! But if your dreams aren’t crazy you’ll always settle for good enough. I don’t want to be just good enough. I want to be amazing. You only get so much time on this earth to make your mark. What are you going to use that time to do? What are you going to leave as your legacy? What’s your vision for your life?