So I was just on Beyoncé’s website and girlfriend is living the fab life. On her own yacht, traveling the world with her family, eating good food, drinking great wine! LIVING IT UP! My first inclination is to say, ‘Must be nice.’ But is that really the right reaction? Instead of being envious of her amazing life why not try to live my own amazing life? Why can’t I have a yacht and travel the world?
Up until recently I always thought having crazy, lofty goals was a little ridiculous. I mean, am I ever gonna be wealthy enough to visit every country in the world? Will I ever be financially stable enough to wake up and not have anything to do but chill on the beach and drink rosé? Well those things won’t ever happen if I put in my head that they can’t! If Beyoncé started her career saying I just want to sell a couple of cds and that’ll be success to me she wouldn’t be the multimillionaire business woman she is today, trust and believe.
Successful people are never satisfied. And they never stop thinking about what’s next. You have to want to be better. You have to have the drive. Maybe wealth isn’t what motivates you. Maybe its the freedom to spend your time the way you want to and not be tied down to a 9-5 job. So what can you do to get yourself out of the rat race? You have to start thinking outside the box if you want to live life on your own terms.
I’m done having little dreams. Those no longer interest me. From now on when I tell someone a dream or goal I have I want to see that look on their face like, ‘That’ll never happen’ and then I’m gonna go out and prove them wrong. I can do anything and so can you. Stop making excuses, stop putting limitations on yourself and just go out there and do it!
So lately I’ve been thinking a lot about the things I want in life. As I mentioned yesterday, I’m working on a vision board and these ideas have been on my mind a lot recently. Some of the things I want I can get through hard work and my own effort but some things I need help with. Some things I have to ask for.
That’s something I’ve always struggled with. I don’t really like asking for help. It might be a pride thing but nevertheless it’s something I need to work on. You’re not always gonna have the answers to every question. You don’t know how to solve every problem. Sometimes you need a helping hand to get you where you’re trying to be: someone with more experience or someone with different connections.
I’m going to continue to think of the things I want, who can help me and how to reach them in an effective way. You’ll never hear a yes unless you ask right? Things that make you go hmmm…
Last year for my birthday my mom bought me the book “Act Like a Success, Think Like a Success” by Steve Harvey. At the time I my response was “Aww, thanks mom, that’s so sweet” and I threw the book into my bag where it stayed for almost a year. It’s not that I don’t like Steve Harvey. I love him! I just wasn’t ready to read it and every time the thought crossed my mind I made an excuse… I don’t have time, I’m busy, it’s probably boring, etc.
Last week I realized it was time to read the book. I’ve been existing in this life, not living it. My husband and I are apart because of reasons beyond our control. I’m tired of working hard to make someone else’s dream come true… I want my own dreams to come true! I want to wake up excited to work, I want to start a family, I want to own property, I want to travel the world, I want to take care of my parents! I figured reading the book couldn’t hurt. And if I had enough time to watch everything I had DVR-ed in the last week I had time to read this book.
Game changer. Those are the words that come to mind after reading this book. I’ve always felt like my life is meant to be more than what it is. I’m meant to see the world, to leave a mark, to be great. Reading this book has given me the push I need to stop living life on other people’s terms and to start living life on my own.
One of the things that Mr. Harvey suggests is creating a vision board. Something that you will see every day and remind you of what you’re working towards. I’ve been wanting to create a vision board for a long time but again procrastinated. That’s something I tend to do a lot. There’s always tomorrow, or I’ll do it later. Well I’m not going to get where I want to by putting things off. That’s another topic that Steve touches on in this book.
Today I went to the store and got my supplies to create my vision board. I have been collecting wine corks for over a year (former bartender here) and they’ve been sitting in a bag waiting to be put to use. This week I’m going to make my vision board and make sure I look at it every day. I have goals and dreams that are out of this world crazy! But if your dreams aren’t crazy you’ll always settle for good enough. I don’t want to be just good enough. I want to be amazing. You only get so much time on this earth to make your mark. What are you going to use that time to do? What are you going to leave as your legacy? What’s your vision for your life?